Finally get down to watching this movie. I used to adore Jude Law, but that was when he acted with Nicole Kidman in Blue Mountain. In Alfie, he seemed like he's playing himself, the playboy. His brownie points has just effectively dropped to zero.
In the final scene, he said he has everything, but no peace of mind. And when you don't have that, you don't have anything.
Well, the story goes he just can't stick to one woman, call it commitment phobia, call it fleeting desires, the point is, the women give their all to him but gets nothing back, and he doesn't feel bad about dumping them, or being dumped for that matter, until the end, when it bites back at him. Ah, that's when he left the audience with that quote to think about.
Which reminded me of this article I read in a recent fashion magazine. There was a paragraph that mentioned how there are young successful divorcés who would date around post divorce. If they married young, they are doing so to make up for lost time; If they were dumped by their wives, they are doing so to boost their own ego. But after playing musical chairs, most of them would want to settle down, because nothing beats having someone to look after them, cook for them and be there for them at the end of the day.
Hmm, I guess that's what Alfie is about too.
Some women think that's so chauvinistic. In this egalitarian society, I guess, women are more empowered, and no longer need to take things lying down. But my stand is still quite traditional. I seriously don't mind cooking and looking after the family while the man brings the bacon home, because that's what I think a woman should and is capable of doing.
Now before all the ladies turn against me, this is purely the way I was brought up to think. So don't hold it against me. Some values cannot change after so long. Still, I don't particularly advocate being a housewife too, because homemakers also need to have their own hobbies, passion, or work, to keep them motivated, energised and youthful.
So how different are the wants of men and women?
I was having dinner with a girlfriend and she told me how she is facing quarter-life crisis. I don't know what that really means (I guess it's not something everyone goes through and even if we do, it turns out differently). Hers is an empty sort of feeling, of not knowing what you are really pursuing that will complete your life.
I suggested that she probably needs a man. She denies. Then maybe it's romantic love she wants. She denies.
Gee, women are always in self-denial. Haha, it's true! I admit to that sometimes. Hee hee...
She says she doesn't want to have a serious relationship. She says it's tiring to get to know someone all over again.
True, but isn't the lack of stability that's really tiring? I mean, when you date around as opposed to having a serious relationship. And you keep having to introduce yourself to many people instead of spending time getting to know someone better. At the end of the name game, you realise you don't really know anyone well, and they don't really know you. Sort of like Alfie, who is rich on the outside but poor emotionally.
You see, I figure the entire universe consists of relationships so how can we human beings not need relationships? Sure, we have friendship and family companionship, who needs love? I beg to differ. I think different forms of relationships satisfy different aspects of our lives. And romantic love is one big concept that plays a huge part in our lives.
Otherwise, why would people like me be so hooked on to melodramatic Korean love stories? Why would people commit crimes and do silly things when love goes wrong? Why is BGR such a big issue in schools and at home?
Because when you love and be loved, nothing else matters.
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My third coffee of the day. Now I'm Sleepless in Singapore...
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天啊，我真的太久没有踏进新达城（Suntec City）竟然有那么多改变。我太孤陋寡闻了！刚才和朋友吃完饭后，决定去走一走，消化晚餐，没想到，我们两就好像旅客一样，对整个环境有点陌生。有扩大商店的范围是好事，因为目的是要让购物者有更多选择。新达城的某个角落也增设了一个室内音乐水池，和灯光的配合下，还蛮有外国情调的。当时正播着 "What A Wonderful World"，真的好象在另一个世界闲逛。虽然店都关了，但是清静也是一种享受。
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Thursday, July 26, 2007
I think this car is cute! I'd probably want to drive it for fun, but I doubt it's practical for me because I have far too many things to store. But then again, the advice I got the last time I bought my current car was that a small car may have less space, but that will prevent me from over-cluttering it.
I used to like driving performance cars because I actually enjoy driving and with a good car, you really appreciate what it can do. Couple of years back, I went for a BMW advanced driving course, that taught things like proper driving posture, defensive driving, over-steering, under-steering etc etc. It was only at the race course in Malaysia, that I could ram the accelerator of the BMW 330i without worrying about crashing or getting caught. The 330i is a very stable car and the way it hugs the road when you corner makes it all the more exciting to go fast. Ok, I admit, speeding is thrilling and I love it! Moreover, that sense of thrill can't be replicated anywhere else. Hmm, then again, I take it back. Maybe on deathly roller coasters too, because I remembered that feeling the last time I went to Cape Town and attempted "suicide". But that's another story for another time.
The thing is, sitting on a roller coaster, you're not in control, unlike driving. That's why it's adrenalin rush from fear versus adrenalin rush from excitement. I'd choose the latter. Let me reaffirm my stand, I enjoy the drive very much, but I do not advocating speeding.
Now for me, practicality overrides desire, that's why I sold my dear Alfie and switched to something more economical. I still want to test performance cars if I'm privileged enough to be invited, but in the meantime, I'm perfectly happy with what I have.
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Wednesday, July 25, 2007
Recently I'm into J-pop and K-drama. Ok, maybe I'm a bit slow, considering the fever is sort of dying down, hmm, or is it still going on? Well I'm not so sure anymore, maybe cos' I've been too out of touch with the latest trends. Whatever it is, I didn't used to understand all that craze over J-pop or J-fashion, but guess what, I bought Namie Amuro's new album and absolutely loved it. She's been around for a long time, but somehow her style never struck a chord with me, until today.
Her music sort of has a big band feel to it, especially "Hide and Seek" which has the sounds of trumpets and drums. Never mind I don't understand Japanese, I'm equally drawn into the tune and rhythm. That's why they say music transcends all boundaries.
If you ask me what sort of music I listen to, I can't name you a specific genre, because my taste changes depending on my mood. For a while I was into New Age stuff, like Tony O' Connor (sounds of rainforest, sea waves etc), then I liked jazz (Michael Buble, Rod Stewart), then classical fusion (Bond, Maksim), then french music, (Janet Siddel) then one genre I'm not so sure what it's called but I shall just name it contemporary (High Society, Pink Martini), then lounge music, then "tango-like" music, and now, any sort of music that has a unique twang to it. That's why I love JJ's new song 《杀手》because I love the sounds of the gu-zheng and guitar mix, as well as one of his other songs that has er hu accompaniment. It's surprisingly refreshing !
I'm totally for fusion, because it's creative and the combinations are countless.
To my dearest Jolliteers who were there yesterday to support me, thank you so much!! Sorry I left early because I had some things to attend to, didn't mean to disappoint you all. Will see you all another time okie? Here're some pictures I took backstage...
Dawn, Jeanette and I
Lee Teng and I
Fiona and I
My "husband-to-be" Nat (in my new show) and I
Felicia, Dawn and I dressed out from our pretty outfits
Always good for a laugh, game for food and have an absolute weakness for all things furry and cute.
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